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The picture above shows the last piece of creative embroidery I want to share with you. The pictures at the bottom are from parts 1 - 6 of the 'My Embroidery' series. This small flower piece is my own design. I made it as a gift for a friend in Australia. It had to be small as the postage was exp... Read more

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ChestnutSlippers › Beautiful! Love the flower piece. Great job :) xx

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Flutterbydee › Thank you for kind comment ChestnutSlippers :)

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LiaF7 › Lovely

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Flutterbydee › thank you Lia

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OlgaLifeLover › beautiful

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Flutterbydee › New article
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At the top of this article is another embroidery of my own design. The photos at the bottom are from parts 1 - 5 of 'My Embroidery'. I went retro for a while and designed a few 1950's-ish pieces. I really enjoyed stitching this piece as anything goes in retro stuff... unless you were there the fi... Read more

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ze2000 › I suppose the fine green lines are quite difficult to do

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LiaF7 › Looks great. But somehow the top bud looks abstract compared with the others.

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Today I want to share the piece of work in the photo at the top of this post. The photos at the bottom are from parts 1 - 4 of My Embroidery. I made the piece for someone as a present. She told me what she wanted and I tried to stitch it for her. I am not proud of the result but it is important t... Read more

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KimJohnson › I really love it, the touches of sparkle really add to it.

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Flutterbydee › thank you for nice comment Kim :)

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LiaF7 › The Japanese themed one is my favorite :)

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Flutterbydee › That one was fun to make Lia as each scene was different :)

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NyishaHv › Your work is so profound and beautiful, have you ever thought of selling it? its very wonderful and artistic you are extremely talented

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Flutterbydee › No, it's not for sale. I do give it to people sometimes but never sell.

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Carolann › We are are own worst critics are we not?..It is lovely and beautiful colours :)

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Flutterbydee › Thank you Carolann, that's a cool comment :)

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HazySue › I love this piece. The tiny beads give it a sparkle and add a certain elegance to the piece.

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Flutterbydee › New article
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The recent election in UK made got me thinking about why I vote. Obviously, it depends on what the vote is about but here I'm talking politics. Do I vote for policies I think will best for my country or is it much more personal than that? Until the last election it was definitely policies that... Read more

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ze2000 › Nice topic. I was thinking recently on how to decide what to vote. It's not that easy because there's no manual to it. You have many ways of deciding your vote but there are two main ways: You vote the best for you or you vote the best for the country. It's not always the best for both, so you need to make a choice.

Regarding your question I think it's a social responsibility, but also a choice.

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SHOHANA › if the nominated person is worthy to get votes then I would like to vote happily

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Flutterbydee › How to you decide they are worthy of your vote Shohana?

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Flutterbydee › Thank you for your comment ze.

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LiaF7 › I vote when I believe in a candidate and won't allow others to decide for me the direction of my country.

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Flutterbydee › New article
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Today I want to share another piece of my work that hangs in my hallway. The picture of it is at the top of this post. The pictures at the bottom of this post show work from previous articles. I used a large variety of stitches to represent the plants, flowers and the cottage. I used 2 strands... Read more

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LiaF7 › Looking at it by your photo it looks perfect and very nice. But of course looking at it with a closeup eye it must have another view. The more we know about something, the more we seek perfection and see our faults.

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Flutterbydee › you are very wise Lia, thank you for your comment :)

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bee › You have an amazing talent @Flutterbydee. I enjoy admiring your great work

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Flutterbydee › Thank you bee, that makes me very happy to hear :)

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HazySue › Beautiful picture and beautiful work. I do a lot of cross stitch. They all are hard work but so worth it.

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29th May 2017 - Will Rafa Nadal win his 10th French Open? The first opponent to stand in his way is France's Benoit Paire. Although that's not a name that immediately springs to mind when thinking of tennis, Benoit had a recent win over Stan Wawrinka that makes this an interesting match with Nada... Read more

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Sonia › I hope so!

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SimeyC › He does seem to be the form player on Clay (Oh and just happens to be the best ever on clay too!) - so I think he'll probably win it! I'm hoping Andy Murray finds some form and gives him a run for his money!

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Flutterbydee › I would like to see a Rafa v Novac final. Top class players, both of them.

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amberbruck › Never really was a big fan of tennis. However, good luck to this gentleman!

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Flutterbydee › Go, go Rafa

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luluarte › Gooo and win :D

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Flutterbydee › Rafa absolutely floated his way to victory over Basilashvili. He moves so well :)

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Flutterbydee › New article
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What is Loneliness?
This article discusses how loneliness can have a negative impact on your life.
The Oxford English Dictionary says, 'loneliness' or 'being lonely', is
"sadness because one has no friends or company".
This should not be confused with 'being alone' which just means there is nobody else with you at the moment.
Should loneliness be a familiar feeling to you, please read this article.

Times in Your Life When You Might Feel Lonely:

Severe Illness
Some people desert you when you've had a severe illness like cancer, stroke or a mental disorder to name but a few.
This desertion is often because they don't know what to say to you. They are afraid of saying something that will upset you or themselves. They don't intend to be unkind and would be horrified to know how lonely they have made you feel.
They may keep away because they are afraid you might die and don't think they could handle it if this happened. This is all about them. They are probably more worried about themselves than you.
Some people stay away because they can't stand to see you suffering and, of course, some don't care about you and want to move on with their own lives.
All this rejection can make you feel very lonely especially as you have the sadness of suffering a serious illness.

Break Up With a Partner
People who were friends with you when you were half of a couple often take sides when partners break up. At best they ignore one party and at worst it can get quite nasty. A man I know was ostracized by his Church community when he had a divorce. He was already lonely form splitting with his partner so became suicidal from loneliness when his friends ignored him as well.
People who were your friend before you had a partner may not want to renew your friendship once you are by yourself again. They may remember feeling rejected by you when you spent more time with your significant other and less time with them. Rejection is a feeling you never forget and don't want to repeat so people may be reluctant to get close to you again.
Anyone breaking up with a partner may feel very isolated, which, in turn, leads to loneliness.

Starting a New School or Job and Moving to a new Location
This type of loneliness is something I have suffered from several times in my life. Knowing it would happen has never stopped me moving on but I've often felt like walking out of the new place when I was in an unfamiliar environment.
Forging new relationships can take time so loneliness often takes a hold.
People may feel very lonely in unfamiliar situations having to deal with people who they don't know or relate to. For me perseverance was the answer. After about six weeks I was settled in the new place and didn't feel lonely any more.

Retirement
Retirement is a shock to some people's system. A life without colleagues, without the stimulation of work and without the pleasure of knowing your contribution is so important that someone pays you for it, is an overnight bombshell for many.
Retirement can result in an empty life, boredom and feeling superfluous to society. Confidence can be destroyed and low self esteem manifests. Extra time on your hands makes it's easy to feel lonely when you are in this state of mind.

Old Age
Old people, especially those aged over 75 who live alone, may not be able to go out so may not have a meaningful conversation with anyone for weeks at a time.This can cause loneliness. Some are so lonely that they make up reasons to visit their GP or phone for an ambulance when they don't need one.
'NHS Choices' advise on their website:
"Someone who is lonely probably also finds it hard to reach out. There is a stigma surrounding loneliness, and older people tend not to ask for help because they have too much pride." (http://www.nhs.uk/Livewell/women60-plus/Pages/Loneliness-in-older-people.aspx)
People suffering from loneliness in this way can feel that life is no longer worth living.
Some old people feel lonely even when they have company. They may feel conversations between others are going over their heads. Many topics of conversation may be about things that are confusing and alien to them. The fact that nobody takes time to speak directly to the old person adds to their isolation. This, in turn, magnifies their loneliness.

Home Sickness
Home sickness can make you lonely too when it is often caused by feeling you are an outsider.
Of course going home can cure it but it is important to remember that home sickness is likely to pass once you become accustomed to the different culture of the new place.

Becoming a Widow or a Widower
This type of loneliness is much more than missing the company of your spouse. There is often deep grief to deal with, financial changes to sort out and a terrible feeling of isolation.
For many people it gets no better with the passage of time.

Loneliness and Health

Mental Health Can Suffer If You Are Lonely
Mental Health and loneliness are deeply connected. It is sometimes thought that one can make the other worse.
Judith Shulevitz, a contributing op-ed writer for The New York Times, tells us:
"Among (psychiatric) analysts, Fromm-Reichmann, who had come to the United States from Germany to escape Hitler, was known for insisting that no patient was too sick to be healed through trust and intimacy. She figured that loneliness lay at the heart of nearly all mental illness and that the lonely person was just about the most terrifying spectacle in the world. She once chastised her fellow therapists for withdrawing from emotionally unreachable patients rather than risk being contaminated by them. The uncanny specter of loneliness “touches on our own possibility of loneliness,” she said. “We evade it and feel guilty.” (https://newrepublic.com/article/113176/science-loneliness-how-isolation-can-kill-you)
Mental Health Disorder is an illness that often causes people to desert you. The loneliness this causes may make sufferers depressed by a feeling of rejection, confused as to why they have been deserted when they are ill and may make them turn to drugs and alcohol to make themselves feel better. People with this kind of loneliness benefit from professional help.

Physical Health Can Suffer If You Are Lonely
Here are some of the physical diseases that may develop or worsen if you are lonely: high blood pressure, degenerative diseases of the nervous system, over eating and many more, some life threatening.
Paula Spencer Scott, Caring.com author, says:
"Good for you if you exercise, watch your weight, and don't smoke -- but if you live in lonely solitude, your health may suffer anyway. Social isolation is increasingly seen as a health threat independent of physical condition. And yes, it's harmful enough to kill you.
Loneliness can wreck the body like a physical stress. Scientists believe that feeling disconnected and alone may trigger damaging inflammation and immune-system changes. Loneliness has also been shown to speed up the heart-health changes of aging.
How bad is it? A 2010 Brigham Young University review of studies involving more than 300,000 people concluded that loneliness is as unhealthy as smoking 15 cigarettes a day or being an alcoholic. In a 2012 Archives of Internal Medicine study, older adults who described themselves as lonely had a 56 percent higher risk of developing functional decline (such as losing the ability to walk or climb stairs). They had a 45 percent increased risk of dying."(https://www.caring.com/articles/loneliness-and-health)

In Conclusion
My next article will offer suggestions about how to deal with loneliness if you are a sufferer. Look out for 'Loneliness and How to Cope With It'

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What is Loneliness? This article discusses how loneliness can have a negative impact on your life. The Oxford English Dictionary says, 'loneliness' or 'being lonely', is "sadness because one has no friends or company". This should not be confused with 'being alone' which just means there is nobo... Read more

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LAFFINGKNOME › Loneliness is not good but being surrounded by the wrong people isn't good either!

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Flutterbydee › Yeah, that's awful :(

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NyishaHv › Great article, Flutterbye I really like it!

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Flutterbydee › Thanks Nyisha :)

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Deepizzaguy › Thank you for sharing this blog on this site.

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annie07 › So true. Loneliness damage a person in my ways.

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Flutterbydee › New article
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Just before Easter I finished my art course so now I must set myself up to paint on my own. Resources, resources, that's what I need. I want to start by painting some landscapes using acrylics. I did quite well at that when I was on my art course. I checked my paints: only two colours needed, ... Read more

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ze2000 › Good luck, keep us updated!

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Flutterbydee › Thank you ze2000, really nice you said that :)

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