By snakebitekiss
2 years ago

My anxiety

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My anxiety keeps me from doing a lot of things, like hanging out with friends, attending carnivals/malls/other public places, and it even stops me from sleeping.

I recently had to STOP looking thru my Facebook feed due to all the babies, children, pregnant women, and pregnancy baby related advertisements. One of my panic attack "triggers" is the fear of becoming pregnant. Even tho I am on birth control and my man and I are careful.

This fear started in 2016 after my grandma passed away, why it happened I do not know. But every three weeks out of the month are a living hell, to see if I will get my cycle and be deemed "NOT pregnant"

i know it may seem silly to a lot of you, but to me its a legit anxiety. You have no idea how long it takes me to fall asleep, or how distracted I get from watching TV or doing whatever all because of this stupid panic trigger.

Sometimes I wish I was in a coma so I didn't have to deal with all this stress.,
2 years
LiaF7 As surely medical advice has told you it all has to do with pregnancy trauma. And what you have been through because of it. Ounce you do get pregnant and accept it, you'll see that a barrier has been thrown down. you are mature enough to be a wonderful mother and somehow everything is possible if we do sacrifices. Dont fear it so much because it would not ruin your life now, it would fill it with a different meaning, that's all.
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snakebitekiss I don't want to get pregnant or have children tho. This is why it stresses me so much. @LiaF7
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LiaF7 It is your decision to not have children. What you have to be sure of is why you don't. After you get that settled in your mind there are ways to avoid them in a more secure or definite way if that would make you happy or less anxious. But life teaches us that sometimes what we want now is not the same that we want in 20 years from now.
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snakebitekiss I have already made sure of why I don't. Sadly I don't have the funds for anything more permanent to reduce my fears. @LiaF7 I just wish this panic never started. I was fine for so long until my grandma passed away it was like BAM trigger outta nowhere
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LiaF7 The death of a loved one is very strange with your fears. Only can relate to it, if you thought of her as a support (emotional and finantial) and are afraid to take a big step without a net "to not let you fall". only see it in this way.
Because the pain in loosing a loved one can be lighter with the gain of another life with a different type of love (child) .
I am sorry... I am being annoying. Sorry. It's my maternal side seeing you are troubled and wanting to help, but I know i'm not able.
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LAFFINGKNOME I too suffer with anxiety and depression and I feel for you
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RasmaSandra I am an anxiety attack survivor. Way back when I lived in the states I was going through a stressful first marriage. Suddenly it was discovered I had a minor health problem correctable with a one-day laser. But no, anything wrong with me and I go crazy. Started a whole year of anxiety episodes which I dreaded. But time passed and they passed and I have not had any. I just recently had a scare when my husband suddenly passed away but no nothing. What I do because it continues to be a threat since I am so nervous I give myself pep talks and say no-nonsense for me it has worked. I hope you can find something that will help you. There is a none fear of pregnance perhaps if you look at this it can help you decide in some way how to help yourself.

www.independent.co.uk/life-style/health-and-families/the-women-who-are-terrified-of-pregnancy-a7509521.html
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RalRey I do not know if he has already consulted specialists on the subject, and I do not know if he has religious beliefs.

 I am the father of five young men, three women and two men, three of them, two women and one man, I have been given seven grandchildren.

But also as a man of God, believer of YHVH God, God of the Bible, and considering that most existential problems such as fears are the product of the emptiness that produces the lack of faith in the living God, God the Creator and giver of life, God of the Hebrews, of Abraham, of Moses, of Isaac and of Jacob, God and Father of the Lord Jesus Christ, I recommend that you approach him through the believing prayer and the reading and meditation of His Word contained in the Bible, His Will revealed to men for these difficult times in which the world becomes increasingly confused, dark, convulsed, corrupt and chaotic.

Existential fears, whatever they may be, can be overcome through the Christian faith. You have faith or you are afraid.

Look at what the Scripture says to young people: "Humble yourself, then, under the mighty hand of God, so that he [God] exalts you when the time is, throwing all your anxiety on him, because he wants to take care of you" ( 1 Peter 5: 6-7)

YHVH God wants you to trust in Him your fears, your anxieties, your worries. The fears, the anxieties, are preoccupations that divide the mind, distract it, disturb it, but the Father God wants the liberation of all those who seek Him and approach Him as His children, to project upon Him their fears, anxieties, worries and conflicts.

There is always the possibility of suffering harm or disappointment in life, however, the Word of God says "So put your worries in the hands of God, because he cares for you"
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