Loneliness

All those who at least in their lifetime felt all the bitterness of feeling loneliness know how much that disturbing experience is. If we ask people who are lonely to describe what they actually are experiencing - we hear that they have a sense of emptiness, that they feel like they do not belong to anyone or anything ... as if they were alone in this world. They want to contact other people, connectivity, love and affection, and they can not make it.
The quality of our lives is largely determined by the quality of interaction with other people, so if we do not satisfy some of the basic human needs - the need for belonging, understanding, and warmth - we have the experience not to breathe "full of lungs" and to lose our lives in our lives. Loneliness can be experienced in a relationship - friendly, partner ... We have a society, and in fact we are alone. It does not say in vain that the worst is "loneliness for two".
Loneliness is a painful and painful emotion characterized by a strong sense of inner emptiness and solitude. A lonely person feels that other people do not notice, that they do not care, that they are indifferent and uninterested in her. It has the impression that it is abandoned, undesirable, inadequate. She thinks she is unsuccessful and that something is wrong with her. Such a belief greatly undermines the self-esteem of a lonely person and leads to feeling worthless.
Indeed, a man can indeed be found in an inappropriate environment that he really does not understand and does not answer. In this case, the exit from such an environment is sought, the person turns to people with whom it can connect and feel to be accepted. Chronically isolated people, however, feel in every society equally lonely and neglected and do not invest their efforts to provide themselves with more adequate society. In some situations, the emergence of loneliness is quite understandable, but it is also transient - for example, by moving to another city, state, in the process of grieving when we lose a dear person and when we do not have the strength to invest in relationships with others, when breaking the emotional connection, after divorce ...
We could say that loneliness is unwanted loneliness. We choose our own self, it is our choice when we need peace, rest. We isolate ourselves when we want to be alone with ourselves, with our thoughts and feelings, to work out some experience, so the society of others is superfluous and impedes us in "engaging with ourselves." When we are in the process of some creative creation, we also like loneliness because it makes it easier to focus on work.Exit from loneliness - psychologically difficult and painful positions, of course, exist. A lonely person can confront his experience, explore him, and answer many questions ... If we go from being responsible for our thoughts, feelings and actions, then we take responsibility for loneliness, look for causes and engage in it to find the people who respond to us, establish and maintain contacts with people besides which we feel comfortable, accepted and connected. We first change our beliefs about ourselves, others and the world - those beliefs that do not serve us, which do not contribute to our well-being. By changing the conviction, our perception of reality changes, and then we are able to search for and find the way out of isolation. Developing an interest in yourself and the people around you is a guideline to getting rid of loneliness.