By Alex
2 years ago

I must learn to let go

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Hello everyone 😉

I'm going to share a bit of me in this article. I didn't forget about the followings articles about meditation 😉😉😉 I'm just being very busy at work.. I'll put it soon😆

Ok, so I'm a very nervous and stressed woman! I've noticed that things go much more smoothly when I give up control!

Although I’m much better than I used to be. I often use perfectly good energy trying to plan, predict, and prevent things that I cannot possibly plan, predict, or prevent.😂😂😂😂

For an example, I love to choose my children's clothes everyday at night because we're always rushing in the morning and after or the baby decides to put his dirty hands full of butter or Nutella on his clothes or the big one saying he doesn't want to wear this but something else 😣😣😣 so... what's the point on preparing everything at night??,😂😂😋

Like most humans I know, I spend a lot of time in business that’s not mine. The baby’s/big boy businesses, my friend's business, Mother Nature’s business, etc..

Tjere are 3 things I know for sure about trying to control things:

1. We try to control things because of what we think will happen if we don’t.

In other words, control is rooted in fear.

2. Control is also a result of being attached to a specific outcome—an outcome we’re sure is best for us, as if we always know what’s best.

3. The energy of surrender accomplishes much more than the energy of control.

I suspect it’s slightly different for everyone, but here’s what control mode looks and feels like for me: My vision gets very narrow and focused, my breath is shallow, adrenaline is pumping and my heart rate increases.

My mind shifts from topic to topic and from past to future very quickly, and I have poor memory, and stress easily😣

In surrender mode, I’m calm, peaceful. Breathing deeply, present in the moment. I see clearly and my vision extends out around me, allowing me to (literally) see the bigger picture.

So the great irony is that attempting to control things actually feels less in control.

Thanks for reading.. Please, share your experiences with me or your thoughts.

Have a lovely evening everyone 😘😘

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ze2000 At work I am VERY organised. When I am at home I just "let it flow" XD
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Flutterbydee Not a control type here. If people ask me how I want things done, like say in making something, I say you do it your way. I learn new things then as everyone has a different way of doing :)
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stepinsidee Great read Alex!
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Alex Thanks @stepinsidee😘
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Alex I like to plan everything... it's good in many things but sometimes when something happens that wasn't in my plans... oh dear... I stress straight...
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Flutterbydee Must be in your nature Alex
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Alex I think so 😂
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