The merits of compromise
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Arguments and feuds what do they achieve nothing is the short answer to that. When situations happen whether in families or in the world where disagreements break out a compromise is the only solution.
Disagreements create painfully horrible atmospheres and when everyone is stubborn and will not see the viewpoint of the other it is just adding fuel to the fire. Arguments and disagreements come in many different forms and I have been a very combative person in my life. Trying to get someone to see my point of view or belief aggressively trying to make them understand what I am saying. This is not the way folks and only reasoned and thoughtful debate is the way forward in an atmosphere where all sides must talk.
Of course, where everyone in a family is a hothead and believes they are right this does not bode well for peace in that family. The others in that family end up being scared of upsetting those hotheads and tiptoe around them verbally so as not to upset them. This is a recipe for disaster because feelings then become bottled up and you hate the fact you cannot speak to people who lose their temper at the drop of a hat.
This is where for the sake of peace and a healthy relationship between families, friends or nations compromise is key. I used to be a hothead myself losing my temper over stupid things or in disagreements when sometimes I would punch walls and one time I punched a pane of glass.
I have learnt to put my point over in a calm assertive way respecting the others opinion though I vehemently disagree with it. Mindfulness, prayer and even going for a walk can do wonders for calming you down. Listening to relaxing music, joining the gym anything that calms you down has to be good.
So to all of you with tempers and stubbornness, I tell you there are other ways to behave and finally that word again - compromise is key. However, you have to be willing to do all these things outlined in this article and if not then all of the above negative actions will continue - your choice.
Disagreements create painfully horrible atmospheres and when everyone is stubborn and will not see the viewpoint of the other it is just adding fuel to the fire. Arguments and disagreements come in many different forms and I have been a very combative person in my life. Trying to get someone to see my point of view or belief aggressively trying to make them understand what I am saying. This is not the way folks and only reasoned and thoughtful debate is the way forward in an atmosphere where all sides must talk.
Of course, where everyone in a family is a hothead and believes they are right this does not bode well for peace in that family. The others in that family end up being scared of upsetting those hotheads and tiptoe around them verbally so as not to upset them. This is a recipe for disaster because feelings then become bottled up and you hate the fact you cannot speak to people who lose their temper at the drop of a hat.
This is where for the sake of peace and a healthy relationship between families, friends or nations compromise is key. I used to be a hothead myself losing my temper over stupid things or in disagreements when sometimes I would punch walls and one time I punched a pane of glass.
I have learnt to put my point over in a calm assertive way respecting the others opinion though I vehemently disagree with it. Mindfulness, prayer and even going for a walk can do wonders for calming you down. Listening to relaxing music, joining the gym anything that calms you down has to be good.
So to all of you with tempers and stubbornness, I tell you there are other ways to behave and finally that word again - compromise is key. However, you have to be willing to do all these things outlined in this article and if not then all of the above negative actions will continue - your choice.
