The Art of Saying Sorry
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Sorry seems to be the hardest word, as depicted in the Elton John song. But on what grounds? On what basis?
The common logic about saying "sorry" is that the one who speaks it is automatically guilty of doing something offensive to another party.
However, thinking deeper about the matter, saying you are sorry to another party just manifests the existing humility and courage within. Anyone can be humble enough to take the blame. Not everyone will be courageous enough to be responsible for the matter.
We should say sorry for getting things without borrowing them, for having access to secure and valued things (or whatever) without having the appropriate permissions to do so.
We should say sorry for being late and wasting the time of the other party, for being reckless and inconsiderate.
We should say sorry and be responsible for the consequences of actions that we have control over. We must not blame anyone (or anything) else. Think of a "common good" resolution to the problem, instead of an escape plan.
We should say sorry for causing disappointments and dismays, to our friends and colleagues, to lovers, and mostly, to our mothers and fathers. Man up and change.
Clearly, saying sorry states that the speaker himself is disappointed and unhappy with the way things have occurred. It embodies the initial desire to change the unfortunate turn of events into something that is desirable and pleasing to the offended and/or disappointed party.
Saying sorry does not need a clarification or a clearance that it is you who committed the deed. It only needs you to man up and have the desire for making things better for the benefit of all.
The common logic about saying "sorry" is that the one who speaks it is automatically guilty of doing something offensive to another party.
However, thinking deeper about the matter, saying you are sorry to another party just manifests the existing humility and courage within. Anyone can be humble enough to take the blame. Not everyone will be courageous enough to be responsible for the matter.
We should say sorry for getting things without borrowing them, for having access to secure and valued things (or whatever) without having the appropriate permissions to do so.
We should say sorry for being late and wasting the time of the other party, for being reckless and inconsiderate.
We should say sorry and be responsible for the consequences of actions that we have control over. We must not blame anyone (or anything) else. Think of a "common good" resolution to the problem, instead of an escape plan.
We should say sorry for causing disappointments and dismays, to our friends and colleagues, to lovers, and mostly, to our mothers and fathers. Man up and change.
Clearly, saying sorry states that the speaker himself is disappointed and unhappy with the way things have occurred. It embodies the initial desire to change the unfortunate turn of events into something that is desirable and pleasing to the offended and/or disappointed party.
Saying sorry does not need a clarification or a clearance that it is you who committed the deed. It only needs you to man up and have the desire for making things better for the benefit of all.
